Who Are You Guilt?

By Kat Giles BSW, MSW, RSW | April 18th

I remember a time when I lied to my mom.

It was years ago, and I don’t remember exactly what I lied about, but I do remember lying in my bed with the feeling of guilt overwhelming me, keeping me awake. Unable to sleep, I slowly walked downstairs to confess what I had done.

A lot of us have an experience of guilt overwhelming us. Like my story above, we often don’t recall the exact events, but we clearly remember the emotions and feelings we experienced around the event. Like our other blogs in this series, let’s look at ways to recognize, regulate and respond to this emotion when we do experience it.

First, Externalizing the Emotion. What Does Your Guilt Look Like?

Does it have wide, tired eyes from sleepless nights? Is it a creature of squiggly lines, a racing mind, unsure of what to do? Does it pace back and forth? Is it little or is it huge?

Take some time to externalize what guilt looks like for you. You could draw a picture or think of an object that represents guilt – perhaps a pit, a tornado, or an approaching storm.

Next, Recognize Guilt and What It is Saying to You

Take some time to hear what guilt is trying to communicate to you. Guilt says I did something wrong or I can do things better.

It is important to notice the difference between what guilt says and what shame says.

Guilt says that I did something wrong, whereas shame says I am something wrong.

Guilt comes in and attacks our actions. Shame attacks ourselves. Guilt can often shift into shame, telling us, I did bad, so I am bad.

Acknowledge that guilt is present in the situation that you find yourself in. Notice where guilt is attempting to become shame.

Regulate Your Body and Mind

Take some time to regulate. Throughout this series, we have talked about many ways to regulate ourselves. I hope that you have found a strategy that works well for you. In our next post, we will talk about some regulating strategies.

Lastly, Respond to Guilt

Once you have regulated, it is time to do something. Some ways that you may choose to respond to guilt might include:

writing a letter or calling a person whom you wronged.
journal about what you can learn about this situation – how will you grow from this experience
give back to the person – choose to do things differently and better next time

We know guilt and shame are tough emotions to recognize and respond to. Connect with us if you are looking for some additional support or strategies, we are here when you need us.

What is Psychotherapy?

September 26th

What is Psychotherapy?

By Candice Chiu, M.Ed Counselling and Psychotherapy, RP {Qualifying}

Psychotherapy is a form of mental health treatment typically conducted by talking with a professional about emotional or cognitive distress. These conversations can be in a group setting or one-on-one. While most types of psychotherapy involve talking, other modes of communication include art therapy and expressive arts therapy. No matter the mode, the goal of psychotherapy is to help relieve the mental suffering of the individual seeking it.

Understanding the Cycle of Anxiety

June 19th

Understanding the Cycle of Anxiety

By Stephanie Kolaski (Bowen), RP, PMH-C

Anxiety is a common mental health issue that affects millions of people worldwide. It often manifests as a cycle of thoughts, feelings, and behaviours that can feel overwhelming and difficult to break.

One key component of this cycle is rumination, a pattern of repetitive, unhelpful thinking that can increase anxiety symptoms.

In this blog post, we'll explore the cognitive and behavioural cycle of anxiety, with a specific focus on the role of rumination.

What is Trauma?

November 29th

What is Trauma?

By Candice Chiu, M.Ed Counselling and Psychotherapy, RP {Qualifying}

What pops into your mind when you hear the word trauma?

Perhaps you see a violent battlefield during wartime. Or you may be visualizing a major plane crash. Maybe it’s a weapon being pointed directly at you.

If you saw one of the above or anything similar, you’re not alone. Most people think of trauma as a life-threatening experience. These dangerous situations can definitely be traumatic for many. However, if you ask most mental health professionals, they will define trauma differently. Dr. Gabor Maté, a leading specialist in the field of trauma and addiction, says that trauma is, “not what happened to you; it is what happens inside of you as a result of what happens to you”. In other words, trauma is not a situation, but an internal experience.